Heartbreak comes in many forms, and from many different people. It is not solely a product of romantic relationships. There is the heartbreak of betrayal, disappointment, abuse of trust, neglect and various other damaging acts that can be carried out by our significant others but also our family, friends and even colleagues. Some acts are more heinous than others.
Regardless of the perpetrator or the offense, we must forgive all the same. Forgive, not because the person deserves it but because you deserve to be free. It is always more beneficial to you than the other person. So do it for you. Forgive those who are not even sorry, who may even be repeat and unremourseful offenders. Forgiving someone does not mean that you allow them to remain in your life.
In fact, it can mean the exact opposite. Forgive and then let go of those you’ve determined are detrimental to your well-being. You will feel so much lighter after having cleared out the negative space that these individuals were occupying within your heart and mind. There are some things for which there is no excuse. Yet, sometimes it helps to understand the situation if you see it from the other person’s point of view. Was there malicious intent? Could this have been a misunderstanding?
What could they have been thinking? Are they repeating a cycle of learned behaviour? These are questions you should ask yourself, not to shift blame but to acquire a perception that offers an opportunity for conscious forgiveness.