Changing yourself and the nature of your relationship will help you recover a healthy, fulfi lling marriage. Here are some tips to avoid divorce and have happy married life
If your marriage has been in a tailspin, you or your spouse might be considering divorce. But it’s never too late to turn your marriage around. Expect your partner to listen to you with an equal amount of respect. It will make a happier relationship and avoid divorce.
Listen to your partner: Open and honest communication is crucial for a good marriage. Listen patiently when your partner comes to you with problems or concerns about your relationship. Being attentive in conversation will help you understand what makes them unhappy and give you a chance to take action.
Stay positive: Your spouse fell in love with a happy and emotionally balanced person. If you have become exhausted by confl ict in the relationship or no longer feel your marriage is salvageable, take a step back. It’s natural to feel down about confl icts in your relationship but try to focus on the big picture.
Be flexible: Don’t demand that everything be done your way. Marriage is a cooperative partnership. Neither of you will get your way all the time. If you and your partner have different goals and ideas whether it’s about where to move or where to dine hear each other out.
Keep up appearances: While physical attraction is only one part of love, in our visual culture, it plays an important role in how we think about and relate to our partner. When you go out with your spouse, dress nicely to show that you consider your time together special.
Practice healthy communication: Only speak to your partner when you are in a mood and state appropriate to do so. Do not yell at your spouse. If you feel anger building on your side or your spouse’s, suggest that you both take some time out to cool off and resume the conversation later.
Balance your time: Healthy couples should spend time together as well as apart. Catch a movie, play mini-golf, go bowling whatever it is you both enjoy doing, do it together. Try new things and have adventures that you can bond over. But when you need some alone time to recharge, let your partner know. You and your partner are not clones, and won’t be interested in all the same activities. Give each other space to pursue the hobbies and interests you each enjoy.
Stay loyal to your spouse: It might seem tempting to have a brief fling or an extended affair with someone who gives you the attention and affection that your spouse won’t.
See them as they are. There are always two versions of a person: the person they are, and the person you see them as. Sometimes these two identities are closely in alignment, while other times they are not. It is important to recognise your partner’s faults and fl aws but also to recognise their good qualities.