WE ALL HAVE fear – it’s an emotion that’s as normal as breathing. The problem is that most people cling to their fears and are therefore unable to move forward in their lives with necessary change. Overcoming fear requires a growth mindset; an attitude that we can grow and change if we choose. Nothing is ‘locked in’ forever; we can change. It takes time and practice. Hopefully with the tips that we share today will help you begin your journey to ditch fear
Someone has rightly said, “If you can ﬁ nd a path with no obstacles, it probably doesn’t lead anywhere.” It therefore becomes very necessary that you cultivate fearlessness for success and growth. Before you can begin overcoming fear, you have to admit that you have it. Perhaps fear is your “normal” state of being and that is quite a bit to overcome all at once. Write down some aspects of your life where you have fear; getting them down on paper is important because trying to simply think them through never works. Having said that, we bring you a list of ways to cultivate fearlessness
Face fear head on
Knowing your enemy is Step One but many who know their hang-ups go to great lengths to avoid them. Psychologists have catalogued many strategies we use to avoid our fears. Some greatest hits:
- Avoidance takes place when we tell friends “I’m just tired” on Saturday night to avoid certain people and the open wounds of that betrayal.
- Repression happens when our brains cause us to bury traumatic experiences, like abuse.
- Projection occurs when we complain about another’s behaviour only to deﬂect from the same ﬂaw in ourselves.
- Anxiety develops when we try to control every aspect of our lives instead of dealing with root issues. In all cases, the solution is the same: to bring that fear into the light. Face it head on.
Truly tell yourself about your fear
Go out into the woods with a bow and arrow. Pick a target, blindfold yourself and shoot. Did you hit the mark? Of course not! You can’t hit a target that you can’t see. If you want to overcome your fears, you need to know them. Oh, you’re not afraid of anything? If you believe that, then you’re likely not aware that judgmentalism, anger
and many negative emotional habits usually mask fear. The ﬁ rst step on this journey into fearlessness is to look inside and ask what keeps you up at night.
Watch videos of people doing what scares you
We can watch people in real life but we can also become a fearless folks from the comfort of our own laptop, computer and phone screens. If you have a phobia of spiders, let’s say, you can get on YouTube and dive into some videos of people handling spiders. Will this be excruciating? Deﬁ nitely, at ﬁrst! And yes, it will require courage to even type “spiders” into the search. Push through the initial discomfort. Sit with it.
Develop a growth mind-set
Growth mind-set—an understanding that failure is a necessary step on the road to mastery. Cultivating a growth mind-set is a miracle way to overcome any fear. When the obstacle is the way to become our higher selves, we start to eat obstacles for breakfast and ask for seconds. When we live with a growth mind-set, fear does not exist.
Be public, be found out
For tens of thousands of years, humans needed “the tribe” to survive No wonder, then, that one of our largest fears is to be shunned.It’s why so many of us sadly adopt a “ﬁxed mindset” that places looking good above growth. We completely transcend fear of being “found out” by sharing everything, always; by being vulnerable. It’s a brilliant way to deal with the fear of being “found out.”
Beat them to the punch
Share your fears with the world—be vulnerable—and the truth can’t hurt you anymore. Do your research: We fear what we don’t understand. We fail to apply for a new job, put up our hand, speak in public, try weird food or visit exotic places because the unknowns might lead to danger.But most fear is ﬂ imsy when we look at it close up. Do a bit of Googling and we ﬁ nd out that we can fund the business for ﬁ ve percent of what we imagined, that we’re overqualiﬁed for the role, or that broccoli does, in fact, taste delicious.